Looking back at my younger years, I am sometimes amazed at how life has turned out. Nothing is exactly what I had originally planned for. The only thing that stays the same is who I am, my values, and my interests. If I could go back in time and hang out with my younger self for a day, here’s what I would tell her.
- Everything happens for a reason.
Without mistakes and failure, you would never have learned. Without pain, you would never have grown. Once you understand this，you will know that everything comes in to serve a purpose. So don’t stress or think that life is unfair, because everything happens for a reason. And only time will tell what it will teach us.
- Focus on one thing at a time. You can have it all but not all at once.
It is not surprising that many of us are doing too many things at once. We need to make ends meet. But if you are working three jobs at a time, it is not likely that you will succeed at any of them. You have to keep your eyes on the big picture. You have to ask yourself what exactly do you want to achieve for the next 10 years? Focus on one thing at a time. Achieve your goals one by one.
- You can plan ahead, but your plan will definitely change when the time comes.
You can plan ahead because sometimes planning ahead can give you a clearer direction of where you want to go. However, plans will almost always change, so be prepared!
- Trust your instincts.
Don’t worry too much about a decision you have to make. Just do what feels right. You know what you want. You might consult other people. But deep down, you know what you want. Do what makes you happy. Because at the end of the day, even if you follow logic, you will want to quit and follow your heart.
- It’s okay to be unsure about your purpose in life.
You might be graduating or have hit a turning point with your career. You might feel a bit lost and unsure of where to go. It’s okay. Go out there and try as many different things as you can. Don’t ever feel like you’re wasting your time. Enjoy the journey. Don’t rush. Every little path will lead you somewhere. And looking back, you will be able to connect the dots. It will all make sense.
- Don’t try too hard with people.
Don’t worry if you feel like it’s hard to make new friends. Just be yourself and be as open as you can. It might take a while until you find new best friends and a mate for life, but when you do, you will know it. It’s not hard work. So, just do your thing and be yourself.
- Take of leap of faith in yourself.
You’ve got nothing to lose but everything to gain. If you fail, you’ll become smarter; If you succeed, you’ll gain even more self-confidence and the emotional and financial rewards. See life as a progressive journey. And you’ll most certainly achieve anything you set your mind to.